Finding out someone is self-harming can feel scary and some people worry about saying the wrong thing in case the situation is made worse. It’s important, in these situations, to try and help. Compassionate support and a steady approach can make a meaningful difference.
Start with calm, open conversations
Taking a gentle approach is best. Listening carefully matters a lot. Utilising quiet moments and speaking without any judgement, by using simple phrases like “I’ve noticed you seem overwhelmed” can open up a bigger conversation. It’s important to avoid reacting with surprise, anger or ultimatums and instead, acknowledge feelings and thank them for trusting you. Urgent help should be sought if there’s an immediate threat to life.
Data shows in recent years the proportion of 16 to 74 year olds reporting suicidal thoughts has increased showing the need for awareness.
Encourage professional support
While friendly support can really help, professional care is also important. A GP is able to make referrals to counselling or other specialist services. Schools and most workplaces often also have wellbeing teams, who can guide forward steps. Some organisations even offer mental health training courses that help staff and carers recognise warning signs and respond safely.
Information about structured programmes can be found at specialists like https://www.tidaltraining.co.uk/mental-health-training-courses/. These mental health training courses aim to build confidence in supporting others, without replacing clinical care.
Look after yourself as well
Supporting someone who is self-harming can be emotionally draining and so it’s important to seek advice and talk to trusted people about your own wellbeing too.
